Neurodivergent wedding tips to support your guests
Like your family or friends, I ride that Neuro-Sparkly life! So here are some of my favourite ways to help support your neurodivergent loved ones on your big day:
TL;DR: Small acts of awareness = big feelings of love
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Supporting your neurodivergent guests doesn’t have to mean major changes. Just a few thoughtful touches can make all the difference.
Consider sensory needs
Light and sound are often a big part of wedding celebrations, but they can be overwhelming for some guests. Loud music can still be fun—why not try a silent disco? It lets people choose their own volume and vibe. You could also provide Loop earplugs, noise-cancelling headphones, or ear defenders for anyone who needs a break from the noise.
Chat to your DJ about lighting—can they minimise strobes, lasers, or flashing lights? Festoon bulbs or twinkle lights can create a magical, cozy atmosphere without sensory overload.
Relaxed dress codes
Including a relaxed dress code on your invite gives guests permission to wear what feels right for them. Whether it’s sensory sensitivities to certain fabrics, or simply not feeling comfortable in formalwear, knowing they can wear something they feel good in is a gift. And of course, those who love to dress up still can!
Food & drink
Food can be a hot topic, especially in a post-Covid world. Individually packaged sweet tables can show your guests that you're mindful of hygiene.
While a cocktail station brings excitement, consider offering a hot drinks station too—herbal teas, coffee, hot chocolate… a calming option with a comforting feel. A warm drink can be grounding for a busy mind and gives people permission to take a quiet moment away from the hustle.
Breakout spaces
Having a quiet space available is a beautiful gesture. Whether it’s a peaceful courtyard or a cozy side room with beanbags and pillows, it’s somewhere guests can take a breather if they feel overwhelmed.
And don’t forget the kids! Weddings can be amazing and overwhelming (and let’s be honest—sometimes boring—for little ones). A play tent, a chill-out zone with toys, or even a mini craft table can go a long way. It’s great for their wellbeing—and for your sanity!
Games and fidgets
Discreet fidgets are wonderful for active minds. I love crocheted infinity loops and beaded bracelets—they’re soothing, fun, and help with focus during the slower parts of the day.
Having games available at your reception is also a brilliant way for guests to connect. Plus, they help pass the time during formal photos! Think: table tennis, foosball, cardboard arcade games, board games, lawn games—or even a bouncy castle (yes, I’ve seen it and yes, it was glorious!).
Surround yourself with support
If you are neurodivergent, you know how powerful it is to have someone by your side who truly gets you. Your wedding day is all about celebrating love—so extending that love and understanding to your guests is the ultimate act of kindness.
Whether it’s family or your chosen crew, allowing everyone to feel comfortable and supported will only make the day more magical.
